when will I ever learn

In the name of Allah, the one I'm waiting for a sign from.

People come asking for advice and opinions from me, I can think for them, I can think for their situations no matter how strange or hard they can get, but I cannot do the same for myself, I cannot even resolve my very own issues. Why? You know, it's like you're hungry other people are too but you can afford to get food for them but not for yourself, get what I mean? (why do my examples always have got to do with food?)

I know my father has told me to learn to say no. Maybe then I wouldn't end up hurt like this, now not only I am hurt, but also abandoned. Epic. But yes, and my mom has always told me not to love and depend on people so much because they will hurt you the most. What choice do I have? I grew up learning to love in order to live. And now love isn't helping me live, but killing me bit by bit, eating up my heart so very slowly unknowingly. Where exactly am I going? Do I even have somewhere to go?
Was I even supposed to head to a particular place?
Tell me.